Top/Bottom, Dominant/devot, Active/Passive, Switch & Co. Words matter, because only when we can name something can we talk about it, draw distinctions, reflect on ourselves within it, define ourselves more clearly, and tell our partners what actually helps us. And words shift their meaning – over time, depending on where they're used, and of course on a personal level. As a result, certain terms keep getting confused with one another, wrongly treated as identical, or people s

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Everyone knows it: the traffic light code — Green, Yellow, Red — is considered the most widely used communication tool in BDSM and is described in many works as the gold standard. At first glance it seems trivial. In practice, however, it is a source of errors and problems that I want to highlight here. I personally know three completely contradictory versions and have heard of many more variations and interpretations. So it's time to clear things up. In addition, I'd like to

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